"The him that I first knew him as was not the him that he first knew me as. When we were married, even before then, when I first knew him, he was tall and scruffy." Mina's half-smile is equal parts concern for her husband and affection for their mutual friend.

"He said he'd known me for a very long time, and ultimately when I met him when he was tall and grey-haired in the 1970's, I knew him but he didn't know me."